Confidence in girls is rarely built through one big conversation or a single defining moment. More often, it’s shaped quietly in the ordinary rhythms of everyday life—small moments of connection, consistency, and encouragement that add up over time. Simple interactions like shared mornings, casual conversations, and unhurried presence can become powerful opportunities to speak truth, affirmation, and security into a daughter’s heart before she ever steps into the pressures of the day.

Every day gives parents countless chances to invest in their kids and guide them toward becoming healthy, grounded adults. The good news is that this kind of intentionality doesn’t require adding more to already busy schedules. Instead, it means learning to see the moments you already have as meaningful. When we leverage the natural flow of our days and weeks, we create space for confidence to grow—confidence rooted not in performance or comparison, but rooted in who God says they are and being known, valued, and loved.  

Here are 4 everyday ways to build confidence in your daughter.

1) Make Mornings Meaningful!

Speak identity before the world does.  

Mornings are often when pressure, comparison, and expectations start to creep in. Before your daughter steps into school, sports, friendships, or social media, she needs to be reminded of who she is and whose she is. Scripture shows us the power of spoken words to shape the heart.

“The tongue has the power of life and death” - Proverbs 18:21

Just as great coaches help people see potential they don’t yet recognize, parents have the God-given role of calling out truth and identity in their children. When you speak encouragement first thing in the morning, you are helping your daughter anchor her confidence in truth rather than performance.

“Encourage one another daily…” - Hebrews 3:13

Simple, repeated affirmations—spoken with intention—help your daughter internalize values like kindness, leadership, courage, and compassion. Over time, those words become the inner voice she carries with her throughout the day.

2) Make Mealtimes Memorable

Use the table as a place for teaching and perspective. Scripture places a strong emphasis on shared meals as moments for teaching, storytelling, and faith formation. Mealtimes create natural space to listen, affirm, and guide your daughter through both successes and disappointments.

“These commandments that I give to you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home…” - Deuteronomy 6:6-7

When your daughter celebrates a win, meals are a chance to reinforce humility and gratitude. When she shares a failure, they become opportunities to teach resilience, growth, and grace.

“Though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again.” - Proverbs 24:16

Confidence grows when kids learn that mistakes don’t define them—and that growth often comes through perseverance. Around the table, parents can help daughters see failure as a teacher, not a verdict.

3) Don’t Waste Drivetime

Turn ordinary moments into intentional conversations. Car rides may feel routine, but Scripture reminds us that discipleship often happens “along the way.” These unguarded moments—without eye contact, distractions, or pressure—can lead to some of the most honest conversations. Drivetime gives parents a chance to listen carefully, ask thoughtful questions, and help daughters process what they’re experiencing in the world around them. When you give your daughter your full attention in these moments, you communicate that her thoughts matter. Resist the urge to solve every problem. When she feels heard, without quick advice or correction, trust grows naturally. Being heard builds confidence—and teaches her that her voice has value.

4) Be Present at Bedtime

Create space for safety, reflection, and trust. Bedtime often lowers defenses. Worries surface. Questions come out. Scripture consistently shows God as one who listens, comforts, and draws near in quiet moments.

“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” - 1 Peter 5:7

When parents slow down and listen at bedtime—without rushing to fix or lecture—they model emotional health and spiritual maturity. Helping your daughter process her thoughts teaches her how to process life with wisdom and confidence.

“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” - Proverbs 20:18

Even when answers aren’t clear, presence builds trust. And trust is foundational to confidence. Knowing she has a safe place to land allows your daughter to face the world with greater courage.

Final Thoughts

Confidence isn’t built overnight. It’s formed through consistent presence, intentional words, and faith-filled moments woven into everyday life. When parents faithfully show up—in mornings, meals, car rides, and bedtime—they reflect the heart of a God who is always near, always speaking truth, and always inviting His children to grow.

These simple habits don’t just build confidence—they help root it in Christ, where it can truly last.

If you are looking for a more intentional way to invest in your daughter, we have an awesome opportunity coming up this March. Our Mother–Daughter Milestone Class (May 5, 12, 19, 26) is a four-week experience designed to create intentional space for mothers and daughters to grow together. Each week includes teaching, discussion, activities, and a take-home project. Topics include “What it means to be a woman”, “Following God with “all of me””, “Hormones, emotions, and identity.”

For more information or to register, click HERE.

Guiding Conversations with Children about Pornography

A Parent Guide to Starting the Conversation Now

This month’s parent resource comes from The Freedom Fight, an online ministry dedicated to helping families understand and navigate the realities of pornography in today’s culture. Their article “Guiding Conversations With Children About Pornography” offers timeless, practical guidance for parents who want to talk to their kids in a way that is informed, compassionate, and rooted in biblical truth.

Pornography is more accessible than ever, and research shows exposure often happens earlier and more frequently than many parents realize. The Freedom Fight resource helps parents frame the conversation in a way that removes shame, invites honesty, and points kids to God’s design for their lives.

What You’ll Learn in This Resource

• Why the porn conversation matters now — and why it shouldn’t be left to chance.

• How to start early by normalizing ongoing dialogue instead of a one-time “talk.”

• How to de-shame the topic so kids feel safe talking with you instead of hiding what they’ve seen.

• Ways to educate your child about the impact of pornography, including brain science and biblical teaching that make the gospel relevant to this issue.

• Practical suggestions like using age-appropriate tools to introduce concepts early and keeping the dialogue open year-after-year.

The Freedom Fight resource doesn’t just give talking points — it helps parents build a sustained conversation and equips them to guide their kids with wisdom, grace, and truth.

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👉 Access this month’s Parent Resource, based on The Freedom Fight, HERE.

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Other Resources

If you would like to watch/listen our 2 day parent seminar on “Adolescence, Sexuality, and Parenting”, please send an email to jordanpearson@maplecitychapel.org and request the link to the seminar.

The seminar covers topics:

• What is the current landscape of teen culture with dating, sexuality and sex?

• Porn, the greatest drug plaguing our culture today and how parents can fight it.

• What is a biblical sexual ethic?

• How do we nurture ongoing healthy conversations with our family about sexual integrity?

Here are some other good resources and tools for parents regarding sex, purity, parenting, and their teens.

• Axis.com — A website that empowers parents to have meaningful, faith-filled conversations with their teens about sexuality, identity, and purity as well as today’s toughest cultural topics. With easy-to-use guides and weekly insights, Axis helps families stay connected, informed, and rooted in a biblical worldview.

• Axis.org/resource/a-parent-guide-to-teen-slang — A very helpful guide to “Teen slang” so you can know all the buzz words kids are using and what they mean so you don’t have to “Crash out” trying to make sense of it all.

• xxxchurch.com — x3 Watch software.

• Covenanteyes.com — Accountability & Filter. These two are sources for accountability software that also offers some filtering and blocking of sites.

• Meetcircle.com — Monitor/limit activity on all devices. This is a device that the Disney Company has come behind. With it you are able to set controls on all your home’s devices.

• Netflix/cable — Set restrictions. Pretty much every streaming and cable service has restrictions you can set. Look into these and set them.

• Phones/iPods/ipads — Parent Controls. The same is true for apple products and most smart phones where you can set limits directly. onthe device. Research these options and become aware of what can work best for your family.

• Bark.us — Bark is an online parental-control and monitoring service that helps parents keep kids safe digitally by scanning their texts, social media, emails and browsers for signs of danger (like bullying, self-harm, explicit content, or predators) and sending real-time alerts. It also offers tools for filtering websites, limiting screen time, managing apps, and even tracking location — giving parents a digital “safety net” and a way to start conversations if a red flag arises. They also have “Bark smart phones & watches” for easier monitoring and restriction setting.

A Parent Guide to Starting the Conversation Now

This month’s parent resource comes from The Freedom Fight, an online ministry dedicated to helping families understand and navigate the realities of pornography in today’s culture. Their article “Guiding Conversations With Children About Pornography” offers timeless, practical guidance for parents who want to talk to their kids in a way that is informed, compassionate, and rooted in biblical truth.

Pornography is more accessible than ever, and research shows exposure often happens earlier and more frequently than many parents realize. The Freedom Fight resource helps parents frame the conversation in a way that removes shame, invites honesty, and points kids to God’s design for their lives.

What You’ll Learn in This Resource

• Why the porn conversation matters now — and why it shouldn’t be left to chance.

• How to start early by normalizing ongoing dialogue instead of a one-time “talk.”

• How to de-shame the topic so kids feel safe talking with you instead of hiding what they’ve seen.

• Ways to educate your child about the impact of pornography, including brain science and biblical teaching that make the gospel relevant to this issue.

• Practical suggestions like using age-appropriate tools to introduce concepts early and keeping the dialogue open year-after-year.

The Freedom Fight resource doesn’t just give talking points — it helps parents build a sustained conversation and equips them to guide their kids with wisdom, grace, and truth.

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👉 Access this month’s Parent Resource, based on The Freedom Fight, HERE.

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Other Resources

If you would like to watch/listen our 2 day parent seminar on “Adolescence, Sexuality, and Parenting”, please send an email to jordanpearson@maplecitychapel.org and request the link to the seminar.

The seminar covers topics:

• What is the current landscape of teen culture with dating, sexuality and sex?

• Porn, the greatest drug plaguing our culture today and how parents can fight it.

• What is a biblical sexual ethic?

• How do we nurture ongoing healthy conversations with our family about sexual integrity?

Here are some other good resources and tools for parents regarding sex, purity, parenting, and their teens.

• Axis.com — A website that empowers parents to have meaningful, faith-filled conversations with their teens about sexuality, identity, and purity as well as today’s toughest cultural topics. With easy-to-use guides and weekly insights, Axis helps families stay connected, informed, and rooted in a biblical worldview.

• Axis.org/resource/a-parent-guide-to-teen-slang — A very helpful guide to “Teen slang” so you can know all the buzz words kids are using and what they mean so you don’t have to “Crash out” trying to make sense of it all.

• xxxchurch.com — x3 Watch software.

• Covenanteyes.com — Accountability & Filter. These two are sources for accountability software that also offers some filtering and blocking of sites.

• Meetcircle.com — Monitor/limit activity on all devices. This is a device that the Disney Company has come behind. With it you are able to set controls on all your home’s devices.

• Netflix/cable — Set restrictions. Pretty much every streaming and cable service has restrictions you can set. Look into these and set them.

• Phones/iPods/ipads — Parent Controls. The same is true for apple products and most smart phones where you can set limits directly. onthe device. Research these options and become aware of what can work best for your family.

• Bark.us — Bark is an online parental-control and monitoring service that helps parents keep kids safe digitally by scanning their texts, social media, emails and browsers for signs of danger (like bullying, self-harm, explicit content, or predators) and sending real-time alerts. It also offers tools for filtering websites, limiting screen time, managing apps, and even tracking location — giving parents a digital “safety net” and a way to start conversations if a red flag arises. They also have “Bark smart phones & watches” for easier monitoring and restriction setting.

Am I Too Late to Talk With My Teenager About Sex?

A Parent Guide to Starting the Conversation Now

Let’s be honest—“the sex talk” is one of the most intimidating conversations for any parent. Many of us delay it because we think, “My kid isn’t ready yet,” or “We’ll talk about that when they’re older,” or simply because the conversation feels awkward and overwhelming.

But in today’s world, kids step into hyper-sexualized content, unfiltered digital spaces, and peer conversations long before we realize it. Suddenly parents wonder:

“Did I miss my window? Is it too late to start talking about God’s design for sex, purity, and relationships?”

The answer: No! It’s not too late.
But it is time to start.

Below are three realities every parent must understand — and the habits that will help you guide your teen wisely.

1. The Sexual World Our Teens Live In Has Changed

Students today aren’t just growing up around sexual content — they are immersed in it. Their middle and high school years are the exact season when they’re forming a sexual philosophy: what they think sex is, what it’s for, and whose voice they will trust.

And this formation is happening much earlier than most parents think. Take for example the statistic on age of first exposure to pornography. The average age of first exposure in the United States is 11 years old. This is partially impacted by the fact that children has access to technology where you don’t have to be looking for it, it finds you. And when we place supercomputers in the hands of emotionally developing, hormonally charged teenagers with low impulse control — that has changed everything.

If your student has a smart phone, he/she is living in a world with:

IMPERSONAL communication:

Texts, snaps, posts, likes, follows, streaks — all create a faux sense of connection without real relationship  

or accountability.

IMPULSIVE digital actions:

Instant access + zero processing time = quick decisions with long-term consequences.
A text, snap, or picture cannot be unsent — and many students learn that too late.

INVASIVE content access

Anything imaginable is a swipe, click, or Siri-request away.
Content comes to them — they don’t always have to go looking for it.

These realities shape your teen’s friendships, identity, self-worth, and sexuality.

What the statistics tell us

• 93% of boys and 62% of girls are exposed to porn before 18

• 15% are age 10 or younger

• 44% intentionally looked for it; 56% did not

• 70% of boys and 23% of girls have spent 30+ minutes viewing porn in one sitting

• 35% of teen boys and 14% of teen girls have done this on more than one occasion.

• 20% of 16 year olds and 30% of 17 year olds have received a sext message

• 71% of teens say they hide online activity from parents

• 90% of teens say their friend group is neutral, accepting, or encouraging about porn

• 30% of all teens reported that they had been exposed during school.

• Of those, 60% reported seeing it several times a month. 40% weekly.

Bottom line:

• It’s happening younger.

• It’s happening more often.

• It’s affecting both boys and girls.

• And silence from parents leaves culture to do the teaching.

2. Your Teen Is Thinking About Sex — More Than You Realize

Students are wondering, comparing, observing, and forming beliefs every day — whether we talk about it or not. If parents don’t speak into that space, culture will. And culture is speaking loudly!

• YouTube

• TikTok

• Friends

• Music

• Movies/TV

• School hallways

• Memes

• Pornography

• Influencers

• Culture

All those voices are teaching our students.

Because so much exposure is unintentional, parents must become intentional.

3. It’s Not Too Late — But You Can’t Wait Any Longer

Whether your student is 11 or 18, it is not too late.
You can still shape how they see:

• dating

• purity

• boundaries

• identity

• sexuality

• God’s design for relationships

But silence is no longer an option.

So what is our response?

If the average exposure is 11, that means many are exposed earlier — and often by accident. The risk of not talking outweighs the risk of talking “too early.”

If you haven’t started these conversations yet — start now.
If your kids are younger — build this into the first conversations about bodies, boundaries, and God’s design.

This is not the world we grew up in, which means our parenting cannot stay the same.

Keeping the End Goal in Focus

It is easy to lose sight of the goal in parenting.

Nearsighted parenting

When it comes to parenting teens, it’s easy to get nearsighted. You can become so focused on whatever activity or emergency is right in front of you that you forget the greater role you play as parents like Proverbs challenges us toward.

Prov 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go; ever when he is old he will not depart from it.

You can get stuck in daily chaos and lose sight of long-term formation. And I get it. Parenting teens is exasperating and exhausting. Schedules are packed. Sometimes getting to and from all the activities is the equivalent of a full-time job. Then throw. inthe hormones and impulsivity of a teen and you can easily find yourself in “parent survival more,” where you focud on just getting through each day without any major issues or explosions, losing sight of the big picture and the end goal.  

Narrow-sighted parenting

In narrow-sighted parenting, we actually do get zeroed in on a goal, but it’s the wrong one. I’ve seen this take up so many forms through the years. It often comes in the form of pushing toward athletic, academic, or social success. None of these are bad things for your kids to experience, but they aren’t the ULTIMATE goal. We focus on good — but lesser — goals (sports, grades, popularity) instead of spiritual formation.

Fear-sighted parenting

This is when parenting is entrenched in some kind of extreme worry for our kids or ourselves. Now, I think it’s important to be aware of dangers and risks out there and to practice a level of concern. But that is not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about worry that causes us to operate in fear. When fear drives us, we will run the rick of neglect or control.

With neglect, we live with this mindset, as I heard a parent once say, “I don’t care what you do as long as it doesn’t get back to me.”

With control, we find ourselves over-parenting to the point that we leave no room for our kids to learn through their own struggles and, yes, even failures.

In know there is scary stuff out there that kids are facing. It’s great for you to want to see your kids avoid pains similar to those you have experienced, but if they do repeat those same struggles, don’t forget where you are now and that God specializes in making miracles out of messes.  

So what is the way?

What is “the way” we’re training them toward? Simply stated, I believe that way is, passionately following after Jesus. I think one of the best passages of Scripture to point us in the right direction is found in Deuteronomy 6:4-9. “Here, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk to them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”

Our ultimate goal should be to raise up kids who fall in love with God, and as Moses tells us in Deuteronomy, we are going to have to constantly remind them of this. You are going to have to instruct them on how to do this. Most importantly, you are going to have to show them what this looks like.  

The goal isn’t rule-following — it’s raising kids who love Jesus deeply and trust Him fully.

Five Habits That Help You Shepherd Your Teen In Sexual Purity

Habit 1 — Be the first voice, not the last

Even if it feels early, awkward, or uncomfortable — you need to be the one to introduce this conversation.

If your child is 3rd–4th grade or older and you haven’t had the basic “birds and bees” conversation, do it immediately. You may be holding back because you are thinking, “My son/daughter is so naive to all this,” or “I don’t want to talk about this too soon and accelerate intrigue or interest.” But the truth is, You risk far more by waiting too long than by starting too soon.

Habit 2 — Make the sex talk both physical and theological

Yes you will have to walk through the “mechanics” of everything. And yes you will probably stumble through your words and likely sweat a lot. But don’t only explain what sex is. Explain why God designed it, what it reflects about His goodness, and why it is meant to be protected and honored. In the same breath, walk through God’s purposes and parameters for sex.  

Habit 3 — Keep the conversation going

The phrase I like to say is “The talk that needs more talking” because I believe the bigger struggle in Christian homes is not the initial “Birds and Bees” talk but, instead, that we aren’t creating intentional space for healthy and meaningful ongoing conversations.

One key statement that goes a long way with this is: “You can ask me anything.” Now this statement is great for your kids to hear in general, but it’s worth emphasizing in the world of relationships, dating, and sexuality. Let them know they can come to you and you will not laugh at them or judge their curiosity but will answer their question and discuss what they should do with their newfound information.

For example, let’s say your daughter is struggling to understand why you have set the guidelines on appropriate dress. Let her know she can ask. Discuss the heart behind your guidelines. If she pushes back, tell her, “Tough luck. Not budging on this one.” I jokingly say that, but this is a tricky aspect to making sure the talk can have more talking. Talking gets old really fast when only one side is doing all the talking. If your teen comes to you with questions and you get all authoritarian spouting out commands with little room for your teen to process and share thoughts, they may choose to close the conversation door. But at the same time, there is a time and place for speaking authoritatively on this stuff with them. They need to hear, “You are part of this family, and as part of this family, this is the expectation or standard or rules we are going to live by.”

So when do you have conversation and when do you lay down the law? I don’t know. Good luck with that! Honestly, it’s in this tension where I am so grateful we have the Holy Spirit placed inside of us and that as Jesus said in John 16:13 “But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth, He will not speak on His own; He will speak only what He hears, and He will tell you what is yet to come.”

As they comes with their questions, you should be affirming, caring, and confident outwardly. Inwardly, you should be screaming out to God, “Spirit of truth, give me discernment and courage in this moment. Let me know how to respond and give me the strength to do it.” And here is the awesome thing: we can trust that He will do just that!

So be approachable without abandoning your role as the parent. There are moments for open conversation — and moments to set firm boundaries. Pray for discernment. The Holy Spirit will guide you.

Habit 4 — Ask better questions

The key to asking better questions is to ask open-ended questions. Teens love giving parents one word answers. Let’s say you ask, “How was school today?” What response do you get? “Fine.” “Boring.” or just an incoherent grunt. We will have better results when our questions are framed in a way that a one word answer is not possible. Rather than asking “How was school today?” we ask, “What is one highlight from today and one lowlight?”

When is comes to asking questions about dating and sex, some of the best open-ended questions start with the statement “What do you think…”

“What do you think people at your school believe about ____?” Now, even in that question, there is the potential for a one word or very short answer. But there are easy follow up questions like, “Why do you say that?” “Why do you think that is?” “How does that influence what you believe?”

Habit 5 — Share your story wisely

A common tension for parents is how much to share with teens concerning your past struggles and failures. This becomes a hige mental battle when/if relational or sexual compromise is part of your past. But I believe that your own past victories and struggles can be a huge resource with your kids. Obviously you want to use wisdom and discernment. Here are for questions I encourage you to think through when it comes to your story.

1. What did I get right?

   Where did you succeed when it came to how you handled dating and sex? Walk through the choices and moments where you look back and say, “I’m so glad i chose this path and here’s how it has played into who I am today.” Share these experiences with your kids and steer them in the same direction.

2. What did I get wrong?

   Where did you mess up? as you concider this, how could you draw from your experiences to coach your kids in a different direction? THe trick is deciding the level of appropriate detail you will get into with your kids. That’s ultimately your decision, but I know one thing that often holds us back is the fear they will use our mistakes as an excuse to do the same. When I share out of my specific failures, this is how I usually present it. “Listen closely. This issue is a big deal to me because I got it wrong. You see, instead of _______ (whatever path you are challenging toward), I _________ (my failure to whatever detail I feel conveys what needs to be said without over sharing or overly glorifying it). Now, I’m so greatful God forgives and that He has restored me, but if I could go back to teenage me, I would warn him against the pain and hurt caused by this poor decision. But because I cannot go back in time to tell myself that, I can challenge you to not make the same mistake that I did.”

3. What was missing?

   What conversations or relationships were missing from your life that ended up hindering your ability to walk in sexual integrity? This is more for you to process so you can make sure your teen is getting whatever you didn’t.

4. What was confused?

   Where did you find yourself getting confused in the whole sex, love, and dating scene? This helps you keep perspective and increases empathy toward your kids as they walk through this journey. It also may help you think through ways to provide better clarity with your kids.  

Your victories, failures, lessons, and regrets can become a resource. Not to shame yourself—but to shepherd your child toward biblical wisdom.

Conclusion: You Still Have Influence — Use It

Is it too late to talk to your teen about sex? No. You have not missed your chance. You are not too late. And you are not alone.

Your student may be surrounded by louder voices, but your influence is still the strongest one in their life — if you choose to use it. Talking about sex doesn’t require perfection. It requires presence, honesty, consistency, and dependence on the Holy Spirit.

Start the conversation.
Keep the conversation going.
And trust that God will use your voice to guide your child toward a life of purity, wisdom, and wholehearted love for Jesus.

Other Resources

If you would like to watch/listen our 2 day parent seminar on “Adolescence, Sexuality, and Parenting”, please send an email to jordanpearson@maplecitychapel.org and request the link to the seminar.

The seminar covers topics:

• What is the current landscape of teen culture with dating, sexuality and sex?

• Porn, the greatest drug plaguing our culture today and how parents can fight it.

• What is a biblical sexual ethic?

• How do we nurture ongoing healthy conversations with our family about sexual integrity?

Here are some other good resources and tools for parents regarding sex, purity, parenting, and their teens.

• Axis.com — A website that empowers parents to have meaningful, faith-filled conversations with their teens about sexuality, identity, and purity as well as today’s toughest cultural topics. With easy-to-use guides and weekly insights, Axis helps families stay connected, informed, and rooted in a biblical worldview.

• Axis.org/resource/a-parent-guide-to-teen-slang — A very helpful guide to “Teen slang” so you can know all the buzz words kids are using and what they mean so you don’t have to “Crash out” trying to make sense of it all.

• xxxchurch.com — x3 Watch software.

• Covenanteyes.com — Accountability & Filter. These two are sources for accountability software that also offers some filtering and blocking of sites.

• Meetcircle.com — Monitor/limit activity on all devices. This is a device that the Disney Company has come behind. With it you are able to set controls on all your home’s devices.

• Netflix/cable — Set restrictions. Pretty much every streaming and cable service has restrictions you can set. Look into these and set them.

• Phones/iPods/ipads — Parent Controls. The same is true for apple products and most smart phones where you can set limits directly. onthe device. Research these options and become aware of what can work best for your family.

• Bark.us — Bark is an online parental-control and monitoring service that helps parents keep kids safe digitally by scanning their texts, social media, emails and browsers for signs of danger (like bullying, self-harm, explicit content, or predators) and sending real-time alerts. It also offers tools for filtering websites, limiting screen time, managing apps, and even tracking location — giving parents a digital “safety net” and a way to start conversations if a red flag arises. They also have “Bark smart phones & watches” for easier monitoring and restriction setting.

Parents, as your teen continues to grow in their faith, one of the greatest gifts you can give them is helping them understand what it really means to follow Jesus in their everyday life—not just on Sundays. That’s where spiritual disciplines come in.

We often think of “disciplines” as chores or rules—but in reality, spiritual disciplines are invitations. They’re ways we intentionally make space to be shaped by Jesus. Things like Worship, Silence & Solitude, Reading and Studying Scripture, Serving, Prayer, and Evangelism are all spiritual habits that help us focus our hearts on God and grow in spiritual maturity.

Think of it this way: no one drifts into spiritual growth by accident. Just like athletes train to build strength and musicians practice to improve their craft, followers of Jesus train their hearts through spiritual disciplines.

These practices aren’t about earning God’s love—they’re about responding to it. We don’t do them to get God’s attention; we do them because He already has ours.

We pray these videos will spark healthy conversation and greater dedication to discipleship and spiritual formation in your home!

Worship - Click here to watch

Silence & Solitude - Click here to watch

Reading & Studying Scripture - Click here to watch

Serving -  Click here to watch

Prayer - Click here to watch

Evangelism - Click here to watch

How to Help Your Teen Develop Spiritual Disciplines

Building spiritual disciplines isn’t about adding more to your teen’s already busy schedule—it’s about helping them invite Jesus into what they’re already doing. Here are some simple ways to help your teen grow these habits naturally:

1. Model It Before You Mentor It

Teens are watching more than they’re listening. Let them see you pray, open your Bible, serve others, and take time to rest. When faith is visible in your home, it becomes believable to them.

2. Start Small and Stay Consistent

Encourage your teen to start with short, manageable practices—like reading one Psalm a day, praying for a friend, or journaling once a week. Consistency matters more than perfection.

3. Connect Habits to What They Already Love

If your teen loves music—talk about worship. If they’re into sports—connect discipline and training to spiritual growth. Help them see how every part of life can point to Jesus.

4. Create Spiritual “Moments” at Home

Turn ordinary family moments into opportunities to grow faith—pray before school, talk about what they learned at youth group, or share where you’ve seen God at work that week.

5. Celebrate Growth, Not Just Results

When your teen makes an effort—celebrate it! Affirm their progress and remind them that growth takes time. Avoid turning spiritual disciplines into checklists.

6. Be Patient—Transformation Takes Time

Spiritual maturity doesn’t happen overnight. Encourage your teen to keep showing up even when it feels dry or hard. God does His best work in the quiet, consistent moments of obedience.

Parents, you are the primary faith influencer in your home. You don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be present. Every time you point your teen toward Jesus, you’re helping them build a lifelong foundation of faith that will carry them into adulthood.

Parents, do you find yourself in the “How was your day?” -> “Fine” cycle? If so, you are not alone. Getting students to open up beyond the one word answers is (and has been) a struggle for many. So this month we want to help you get beyond the “yes & no’s” and get to the life giving conversations that go deeper than the surface level. And to do so, we want to help you in the art of asking better questions.

1) Change HOW you ask

Instead of asking yes/no questions, try asking open-ended questions that invite more stories, feelings and reflection.

❌ Don’t ask “Did you have a good day?”

✅ Ask “What was the best part of your day?”

✅ Or ask “What’s something that made you laugh today?”

“Tell me one thing you learned today!”

2) Ask about feelings, not just facts

Help your student move beyond what happened to how they experienced it.

“How did that make you feel?”

“What was the hardest part of today”

“What are you most proud of yourself for this week?”

3) Get Specific

The more specific the question, the less room there is for one-word answers.

“Who did you sit with as lunch today”

“What’s one thing that surprised you today?”

“What was the funniest thing that happened in class?”

4) Use conversation starters

Here are a few fun questions to keep in your back pocket for drives, dinners, or downtime.

“If you could swap places with one person for a day, who would it be? Why?”

“What is your go-to hype song right now?”

“If your small class had to survive on a deserted island, who would be in charge of what?”

“What’s one thing you wish adults understood better about teens?”

“If you could redo one part of today, what would it be?”

“Who did you spend the most time with today?”

“If today was a playlist, what songs would be on it?”

5) Go deeper over time

Not every conversation will be deep—and that’s ok! Keep planting seeds by occasionally asking bigger faith and life questions:

“Where have you seen God at work in your life lately?”

“What’s been challenging about following Jesus at school?”

“If you could ask God one question right now, what would it be?”

“Who do you look up to most in your faith, and why?”

“What do you wish more people understood about you?”

6) Listen more than you talk

Sometimes the best “question” is simply silence after your teen shares. Don’t rush to fix or respond—just listen and let them know you value their voice.

Now these things are not going to instantainiunly transform your kids into little chatterboxes. You very well might still get the grunts, shoulder shrugs, or the “I don’t know” responses most of the time. But if you are consistent and changing the approach of how you ask questions, you just might get those awesome moments where you get to see a little deeper into your students life. But remember, sometimes better questions isn’t about prying—it’s about showing your teen you care about what’s happening in their heart, not just their schedule. Be patient. Be curious. And remember, even short answers are steps towards deeper trust.

We can probably agree that sports teach kids valuable lessons in leadership, teamwork, and hard work. As parents, you have the privilege of helping your kids navigate disappointment, rejection, and celebration.

We may know that but let’s BE REAL…watching kids play sports can be a roller coaster of emotions—exciting and rewarding, yet nerve-wracking, exhausting and sometimes frustrating. Especially if you are a former athlete.

Regardless of your own athletic ability, as parents, we need to recognize any unhealthy emotional attachments to our kid’s performance, causing a struggle to keep the bigger picture in mind. It is easy to lose sight of the Gospel and forget that life lessons are more important than wins, points, or breaking records.

Learning to parent an athlete takes intentionality and lots of patience! As parents, your role is NOT to be the coach (unless we coach our kids team) but to bless and guide your children toward a higher, God-given purpose. Don’t miss the chance to nurture growth through these experiences. We pray this playbook helps your family grow!

This playbook includes:

• 5 Gospel Centered “Plays” for Parenting Your Athlete

• Building Healthy Conversation With Your Athlete

• 10 Tips for Being a Gospel-Centered Spectator

• Identity in Christ Statements for Athletes

• Our Family Athletic Commitment (sample & blank)

To download the parent playbook, click HERE

The Summer Guide is designed to help you intentionally lead your family in consistent and meaningful discipleship conversations. Whether this is your first time leading your family in discipleship or you have been doing it for years, we pray this resource sparks meaningful connections as you grow in your understanding of God’s love and faithfulness toward your family. A family discipleship plan helps everyone in the family move in the same direction. A plan provides a framework to instill habits and teach with purpose while building a foundation for future discipleship. A plan also provides accountability. The ultimate goal is to lead our children to grow in their desire to respond to God’s love, purposes and plans for their lives. Use the simple Family Discipleship Planner to be intentional about discipleship with your family this summer!

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In the average home, we find a lot of tools to keep those homes safe. We install alarm systems, multiple locks, and cameras in hopes to protect the ones we love. However, are we making our homes safe for our kids to face doubts and fears and ask hard questions? In other words, are you making your home a safe place for hard conversations?

Can your kids come into your house knowing that no matter what they do or say, you will love them? We want our kids to come to us on their best days and their worst. In order to create a safe home, we must create a culture of safety. Here are 5 ways to create a safe home for hard conversations.

1. Be prepared.

It’s one thing to say you want to be safe and it’s another to actually be safe. Prove it by how you interact in the everyday stuff of life and let your kids know they can come to you with anything. The best way to be prepared is to work out scenarios in your head and think about what you will do if… For example, “If my kids come to me with (fill in the blank), I will respond by (fill in the blank).” Thinking through potential scenarios is not being paranoid; it’s being prepared.

2. Use repetition.

When teaching and training our children, we must be good at repetition. If we want to provide a safe place for our kids to come to us for anything, we must practice repetition. When is the last time you told your kids that you want them to know that no matter what, they can talk to you about anything? Don’t just say it once; repeat it over and over. Keeping that bug in their ear tells your kids that you are safe and they can run to you on their worst and best days.

3. Resolve conflicts.

Too many adults in our world struggle to express their feelings because they were never allowed to do so growing up. That’s what happens when you’re raised by people who don’t do conflict resolution. So create a home where your kids know conflict is a normal part of relationships and that working through it is actually better than avoiding it. Create a home where the resolution of conflict is a priority. Be willing to work through hard situations for healthy resolutions.

4. Give your kids freedom.

You must have rules and regulations in your home along with consequences. These rules actually make your kids feel safe because it gives them parameters to work within. Freedom doesn’t mean chaos. Freedom means your children must know that they have the freedom to ask mom and dad anything and the freedom to wrestle with hard questions and doubts without being belittled for bringing up the subjects. If you shut down freedom, your kids will not come to you. If you say, “We don’t talk about that in this house,” you have put chains on all other conversations in the future.

5. Love with words and actions.

This is the most important. All parents would say they love their kids. Some are better with their words and actions than others, but we do love them. One of the greatest ways to cultivate safety in your home is for your kids to know that you love them no matter what. So show your love to them without attaching it to performance. Show your love to them without expecting anything in return.

Sexual Purity Discussion Guide

A study of the Scriptures reveals that sexuality in the context of marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts God has given to humanity. Sadly, the perversions of the topic that are so prevalent in our culture have caused many in the Church today to see sex as a taboo topic that is almost seen as off-limits to discuss.  What a sad commentary, when Satan steals from the family one of God’s most precious gifts!  No wonder Jesus calls him a thief.  As a result of this distortion, far too many – perhaps even a majority – of parents never talk about sexual topics with their children.

Awkward Roadblocks

From my vantage point as a pastor, most parents desire to talk to their children about these important things, but the conversations are stolen in a subtle way:

• When the children are younger, moms and dads feel uncomfortable with the subject because they fear it will come too soon.

• When the children are entering adolescence, moms and dads feel uncomfortable because they realize how awkward such talks will be – especially in the midst of their child’s already changing body and overall transition of life from a child to a young adult.

• When the child is in his or her teen years, moms and dads feel strange having waited so long – fully aware that their child has figured out many of the details about sex from friends and the media.

As a result, conversations never happen.  Then, when sexual topics are brought up at all, they are discussed only in the context of humor or scandal.  What a tragedy.

Just Start

When is the best time to talk with your child about sexuality?  Right now. Regardless of their age, it is time to start the conversation.  I’ve found through my ministry and interesting principle to hold true: If a child hears information on the subject of sex from someone other than the parents first, the parents often end up having to deprogram what they’ve heard before they can share with them the simple truth.  As parents, we want to be proactive in insuring our children are equipped with God’s plan in case they come across a lie.

Of course, the depth of that conversation will depend on the age of your child.  Consider the following conversational guides related to three stages of maturity.  Notice I did not categorize them with hard-and-fast ages, as different children will be prepared for different levels of dialogue, and only you as a parent can know these things:

1. Early Conversations for the Young:

Just because a child is not prepared to hear about the details of the marriage bed does not mean that they are not ready to talk about sexuality.  In fact, your child is growing up in a world that will be sending sexual messages anyway, and you want to be the one to share the truth.  At this stage, it is important to focus on principles rather than actions.  Help your child understand what it means that God is holy, and how He has called us to reflect that holiness.  I would recommend that the following topics are covered:

• God’s plan for marriage is for a man and woman who are devoted to one another for life. (It is important to note that, for many children, there will be people they care about who did not stay together for life.  This doesn’t mean God doesn’t love them.  God can help people who did not follow that plan to live according to His best plans from that point forward.)

• Sex is a part of God’s plan for marriage.  If you feel like the timing is not appropriate to explain the details of sexuality, I would still recommend that you help them understand that sexuality is a gift from God.  When they begin to hear about sex from peers or media, we want them to understand that God has a standard that is better than what the world has to offer.  A simple, non-detailed definition of sex is an act of love between a husband and wife that also helps them have children.

CONSIDER SAYING: “You don’t need to understand everything about this at your age.  There are some subjects that you will have plenty of time to understand later on.  But right now, whenever you hear the word sex, you need to know that it is something beautiful that God has created for a man and woman who are married to one another.  Of course, like so many other things, the devil has taken sex and made it something that is not what God intended.  So some people do things with God’s gift that don’t have anything to do with marriage.  If you ever hear someone talking about sex, I want you to come talk to me first and let’s make sure what you are hearing is what God has told us in the Bible.”

• Just as God is holy, He wants us to live holy lives. That means, when it comes to our bodies, we also make sure that we protect them for God’s glory.  That means we don’t live as the world does or do anything we want to just because it feels good or others are doing it.

• Pornography is a terrible thing that does not reflect God’s holiness. Pornography is a bad part of our culture in which people allow others to see them naked and do things that shouldn’t be done with their bodies, or things that should only be done by a husband or wife.

CONSIDER SAYING: “Pornography is one way that people disobey God.  They sin by exposing their bodies to others to whom they are not married.  Other than when your mom and dad need to help you, or a doctor needs to help you, there is no place when you should be naked in front of anyone else until you are married.  If anyone ever wants to show you pictures of someone without their clothes on, say no and tell me right away.”

2. Deeper Conversations for the Growing and Contemplative Child:

As your child has more access to peers and others beyond your influence, it becomes more essential to equip him or her with the truth of God’s word related to sexuality. As God leads you, ensure that your child has an understanding of the following:

• The Act of Marriage.  This may seem like a daunting task, but don’t forget that sex is a gift from God.  Your child deserves to hear about it from someone who will share the details in a way that is God-honoring!  Set aside a specific time to get away with your child for this important conversation.  Don’t just do it off-the-cuff, in a ‘by the way” fashion, but help them to see its importance by the priority you place.  Set a special time to go to a park together, or allow space where everyone else in the family leaves so it is just you and the child.  This eliminates any unnecessary awkwardness or embarrassment.

Begin at creation, by sharing God’s original intent for husbands and wives. Genesis 2:24-25 states, [24] Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. [25] And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. (ESV)    That phrase “one flesh” is a beautiful picture of sexuality as God intended.

Share the basics of what happens, and pause often to invite questions.  Consider utilizing some great books on the topic if you would like a guide.

• The Sanctity of Marriage.  Every conversation about sex should be shared amidst the topic of the beauty of marriage – the precious relationship that God has set apart for a husband and wife.  It should be held in high esteem –  seen as something beautiful and blessed.  Marriage is more than sexuality, and the topic of sexuality will always be incomplete and less than intended outside of the bigger, profound picture of marriage.

3. Practical Conversations for the Emerging Adult:

Beyond “the sex talk,” parents must maintain a constant dialogue about sex and marriage.  There are too many other sexually-charged messages in our culture that won’t be silent. You don’t want to send the message “Well, thank goodness we got that over with!”  Consider the following ongoing opportunities:

• “What If” Scenarios: Describing a fictional but realistic challenge to your child before it is really encountered is a great way to evaluate real-life solutions to complex problems.  For example, something like, “A young man and woman are in love and would one day love to be married. In the heat of passion, they both desire to carry their relationship into an area that is reserved for a husband and wife.  He says to her, ‘We plan to be married anyway!’  What is wrong with this logic?  What should they do?”

• Spend Time Unpacking the Three Questions Related to Sexual Matters. Who is God? What is True?; and Why am I Here?  Of the three, we tend to focus on the second when it comes to sexuality: “You shouldn’t have sex until you are married because God says it’s wrong.” That is absolutely the case, but it is a deeper, broader conversation when it begins with question one: “Because God is holy, He has called us to holiness.  In fact, He created marriage as a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church and the Church’s love back to Jesus. Therefore, I need to consider every area of my heart – including the act of sex – that might be less than the heart of holiness to which God has called me.”

• Pray for Future Spouses Together. The best way to get our eyes off of the compromise that the world has to offer is to focus on the beautiful standard that we should be looking toward.  Pray often for the future spouse of your child, and challenge him or her often to consider what traits would be found in the ideal mate.

Parent Resource:

3 Immediate Steps to Take When Your Teen is Hurting

Parents often ask for help on how to support their teen during challenging times. The reality is that every teen will eventually face disappointment, loss, or hurt. Whether it’s not making the team they trained so hard for, going through a breakup, or missing out on an opportunity they hoped for, these moments can be tough for both teens and parents. As the parents, you naturally feel their pain and want to fix it immediately. While that instinct is understandable, here are three important steps to consider when your teen is hurting:

1) Pause

This may seem counterintuitive, but the first step to take when your child is going through a difficult situation is to actually step back and pause. The reason this is important is because you’re probably going to have some emotions tied in with your teens’ emotions. Do not let your emotions lead! Alicia Britt Chole says “emotions make terrible leaders.” You may need to take a 10-minute or 10-hour pause to let your emotions get in check and think through the long-term lesson or goal you want to achieve in helping your son or daughter through this challenge. We face tremendous disappointment even in our adult years, so what is it that you want to equip your teen with so they are prepared for those moments as an adult? Fixing every situation for your teen will only delay the inevitable and cause them more struggle as they get older.

2) Provide wisdom and guidance  

As primary faith trainers, your kids look to you and how you respond to their struggles and hurts. We can certainly empathize with our teens when they are hurting, but we have to be able to lead them through the struggles. This is where true parenting and faith development is demonstrated and shown. The biggest mistake I see parents of teens make is running in to attempt to “fix” whatever issue their teens are having. Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but resist this temptation. This is why the first step, pausing to widen your view is so important.

3) Pray and trust

Growing up my parents prayed regularly (and still do) for my brother and I. They entrusted us – our whole lives, victories and disappointments – to God. If you want to truly minister to your kids when they have disappointments and struggles, don’t just pause and gain perspective, don’t just offer great insights and wisdom through their situation, but let them hear you pray for them. Pray continually with your teen through whatever challenge they are facing and demonstrate your faith in Jesus to guide them. You can’t keep your kids from every hurt that life brings but you do have the responsibility and privilege of leading them to a God who sees and knows them even better than you do.

Parent Resourse: 3 STRATEGIES FOR RAISEING KIND KIDS

In a world full of hostility and division, we should raise kind kids who love not only those in our homes but also the world around them. Kindness is high on my list of characteristics I value but sadly in our culture today, it is one that I see on the decline. Raising kind kids takes effort and intentionality but the investment of time and energy is worth it.

We need to help kids see that there’s a significant difference between kindness and being nice. Anyone, even those who may not always be pleasant, can put on a nice act from time to time. Being nice is often about seeking social approval, about acting a certain way for personal gain in specific situations. However, kindness is a deeper, more genuine form of care. It’s about the other person, about seeing them the way God sees them. It’s about sharing love, grace, and empathy without expecting anything in return. 

Here are three strategies for raising kind kids:

1. Model Kind Behavior

Children learn a lot by observing the adults around them. They learn the most from mom and dad. As parents, we must set the example and demonstrate kindness in our daily actions. This can include:

• Helping Others: Show your kids how you assist neighbors, friends, or even strangers. This might be through volunteering, donating to those in need, or simply being polite and respectful in everyday interactions.

• Speaking Kindly: Use positive and encouraging language, and refrain from gossiping or talking negatively about others. Explain why it’s important to be considerate with words.

• Showing Gratitude: Express thankfulness for small acts of kindness you receive. Make a habit of saying “thank you” and encourage your children to do the same.

Paul tells us in Ephesians how to model kindness.

Let all bitterness, anger and wrath, shouting and slander be removed from you, along with all malice. And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ (Ephesians 4:31-32).

2. Teach Empathy

This might be a big word for your kids but it’s a powerful tool. Empathy is the ability to understand and share another person’s feelings and emotions. It involves recognizing someone else’s emotional state, imagining how they might be feeling, and responding with care and concern. Empathy goes beyond sympathy (feeling pity or sorrow for someone’s misfortune) by incorporating a deeper connection to the other person’s experience.

• Talk About Emotions: Have open discussions about feelings. Ask your children how they felt in various situations and how they think others might have felt. This helps them recognize and respect different emotions.

• Share Stories: Read books, watch movies, or share things from your day that highlight empathy, kindness, and moral dilemmas. Discuss the characters’ emotions and actions and ask your children how they would respond in similar situations.

• Examine Perspectives: Encourage your children to consider other people’s perspectives. When conflicts arise, help them see things from the other person’s point of view and discuss how to resolve the issue with kindness.

3. Create Opportunities for Kindness

Put kindness into practice and help your kids see and feel it in real-life situations. We can’t effectively teach anything without practicing what we are preaching. Again, we must lead the way when we give them opportunities.

• Give Them Responsibilities: Assign tasks that involve helping others, like setting the table, helping a sibling with homework, or taking care of a pet. Emphasize the importance of contributing to the family and helping each other.

• Serve Others: Participate in service projects as a family. Volunteering at a shelter, participating in a charity run, or collecting donations for a cause teaches children the value of giving back to the community.

• Encourage Random Acts of Kindness: Motivate your children to perform small, spontaneous acts of kindness, like sharing toys, complimenting others, or writing thank-you notes. Recognize and praise their efforts to reinforce positive behavior.

Let’s Be Kind Together

When was the last time you modeled kindness for your kids?

Can you think of a time when you should have modeled kindness and you didn’t?

Share that with your family and tell them how you could have handled the situation in a kind way.

Do you have open discussions about emotions with your kids? 

If not, in the next week try to begin opening the door to chatting about emotions, empathy and feelings. Activity: Go watch Inside Out 1 and/or Inside Out 2 together as a family - it’s a great discussion starter!

When is the last time you served or did a random act of kindness as a family? 

Now is a great time to start! Try scheduling a service project within the next month.

In a world where you can be anything, BE KIND!

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